Posts in Midlife
Reinventing Midlife

I feel like I'm a pretty responsible adult. But I also feel at times as though I'm still making this whole thing up as I go along, and never moreso than when I see all the advice for the middle aged or for someone going through a midlife crisis. It's like an illness we all need to get over. Maybe I should be more rattled about all this midlife stuff? Should I be indulging in some sort of major crisis of self-confidence and identity?

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Change Is Coming

Life is a lot different than it was even just a year ago! We're again navigating the unknowns of life after having it defined by the military for so long.

While this site will continue to provide support and encouragement for military spouses, it's time to stretch and grow a little bit...again.

I want to share about what else is important in my life, other things I'm battling through, like reinventing yourself as your children grow up and leave, whether it 'fits' the niche I've carved out in the interwebs space or not. I suspect this change won't be noticeable to folks who arrive here via a popular Pinterest pin (Hiya! Thanks for stopping by) or maybe anyone but me, perhaps. 

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Why Your Life Doesn't Need a Makeover

"10 Things You Should Stop Wearing NOW" the title screamed at me as I scrolled through Facebook. The photo featured middle-aged women in "mom jeans," sadly oblivious to the pain their poor fashion choices inflicted on their hapless families and the general public.

Yet on Pinterest, I viewed image after image of high-waisted, faded wash denim shorts... 

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Learning to Let Go as a Parent

I've heard them called the Blurry Years--those years when you have several young children, say below the age of 5. Those years when you live for nap time and forget to eat. 

In that era when we had four kids aged seven and under, I often found myself on the receiving end of brilliant comments such as, “Enjoy them while they’re little!” and, “They grow up too quickly!”

I remember thinking, Uh-huh, sure. I’d just like to take a shower without someone pounding on the bathroom door! 

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What I Wish I Knew About Life When I Graduated High School

I look at your hopeful face, your bright eyes, and I wish I could go back in time and tell you a few things, aside from lose the giant bangs and Val Kilmer won’t age well. You’re currently stressing over your first semester of college, decisions over where to work, and whether to keep dating that cute guy (Spoiler alert. He IS the one!). If I could arrange a meeting between my middle-aged self and my fresh out of high school self, here’s what the present me might say... 

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11 Signs You're Reaching Middle Age

I remember when my mom was pushing 50 and she'd mention something about being "middle-aged." To which I would smart-aleckly reply something like, Was she planning on living to 100? (Sorry, Mom.)

Merriam-Webster defines middle age as "that period of life from about 45 to 64." Since it's a dictionary, I'm going to believe this. And it may or may not have something to do with the fact that I find myself now squarely in my mid-40s and everything to do with the fact that, like many things in life, my mom was right and I was wrong.

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