So You Want to Fight? Ideas for Dealing with Sibling Rivalry

It was a beautiful fall day in Bavaria, Germany. Our family of six was hiking along the breathtaking Partnach Gorge near Garmisch-Partenkirchen with its sheer cliffs, icy blue water, and gorgeous waterfalls.

An idyllic setting. And my kids were Driving. Me. Bonkers.

Two children, in particular were being a challenge (names withheld to protect the obnoxious), and we’d gotten after them repeatedly.

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What Surprised Me Most About Life After the Military

In the time leading up to my husband’s retirement from the Air Force last year (he’d been in a total of 31 years, and I’d been along for the ride for 29), I did my best to prepare like I do for any major life event. I rotated between devouring the bajillion pamphlets the military dispenses on cheerful topics like why you should sign up for the survivor benefits plan and the eleventy seven steps you need to complete to maybe possibly receive VA benefits, Googled helpful phrases like “what the frick do I do now after being a military spouse for three decades??”, and munched chocolate while staring out the window of ancient base housing and trying to imagine what life would be like after years of living in base housing like this.

Pretty sure that last one was easily as helpful as any other ‘preparation’ I could manage.

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Change Is Coming

Life is a lot different than it was even just a year ago! We're again navigating the unknowns of life after having it defined by the military for so long.

While this site will continue to provide support and encouragement for military spouses, it's time to stretch and grow a little bit...again.

I want to share about what else is important in my life, other things I'm battling through, like reinventing yourself as your children grow up and leave, whether it 'fits' the niche I've carved out in the interwebs space or not. I suspect this change won't be noticeable to folks who arrive here via a popular Pinterest pin (Hiya! Thanks for stopping by) or maybe anyone but me, perhaps. 

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Resources for New Milspouse Moms

The first few weeks and months of getting to know each other as mommy and baby can be tricky. You’re not sleeping well, you're figuring out a new rhythm with your new little one, and probably a bit unsure about how to handle life as a new parent. And if you’re breastfeeding, you may feel tied to home and not as if you can venture very far--never mind finding a sitter you can trust! Thankfully, these days there are loads of free resources for new military parents to help ease this transition. 

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Searching for Beauty: Lessons Learned from Visiting the Anne Frank House

“Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.” -Anne Frank

When we were stationed in Germany, we took the opportunity to visit Amsterdam in nearby Holland and visit the Anne Frank house. The tour was somber and the visitors hushed as we climbed the steep, narrow stairs to the hiding place where the Frank family, Jewish citizens in danger of being sent to the concentration camps, had hidden during World War II.

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